Most people would probably describe "sex" as an erotic physical act … alone or with another. It is so very much more than that! It is still difficult for me to even conceive my saintly Great-grandmother Hogg or her equally saintly daughter, Grandma Vincent, as ever having had sex with anyone … yet both had large families. Surely I must have been born in a family having a long line of virgins.
       Indeed, sex is required for reproduction of the species and it can be a very strong drive in the biological system. There are rewards and pains involved and sometimes the drive can cause a great deal of trouble in life. But, as human, how does sex enter into the plan for a specific individual? That is between the individual and God. No person can deem to make such a judgment for another.
       Obsession over the suspected sins of others can easily become the downfall of the person rendering judgment. (See Matthew 7:1 and Luke 6:37) One might consider it a sin if someone struck another person so hard that their body flew eight feet in an instant … but what if, by being struck so forcefully, the individual had been knocked out of the path of a speeding truck?
      Besides being a means for procreation, sex has another valid and important function. It is the means of expressing unique love for a special and exclusive lifemate. What can a lover reserve and give solely to the beloved other than the gift of the total self? It is a "clean" love because it is not from the gutter which is inspired only by passion of self satisfaction.
       Here we are not speaking of "orientation." Human laws may have loopholes (perhaps intentionally so) but God’s laws are universal and apply equally to all of God’s realm. The Ten Commandments were never intended to have amendments or attachments … revision by popular, democratic means is not an option! Jesus’ commandment of Love has no provisions for alterations, limitations, or interpretations. [Clergy N.B. - Beware of "putting words in God’s mouth!" The New Testament is quite detailed in describing what Jesus said and did … do not make up your own version or alter it to "fit the times!" There will be more said of this in future issues.]
       What did Jesus say about sex? Nothing, per se. But Jesus did have things to say about sexual issues. He forgave the woman caught in adultery … chastising those who threw stones (John 8:3-11). He spoke of lusting after another (Matthew 5:27-28). And he spoke of marriage and divorce (Matthew 19:3-12).
       Some do not envision this "idealism" and I am in no position to criticize or render judgment. I have known of open relationships and I have known of closed (one-to-one) relationships in all three orientations.  With the menace of AIDS in modern times, such a union also seems more rational and much safer.
       I hope that those who do not agree will at least consider the value of such an outlook.
SO WHAT IS SEX?
1 Sam 18:1-4 (By the time David finished speaking with Saul, Jonathan had become as fond of David as if his life depended on him; he loved him as he loved himself.  Saul laid claim to David that day and did not allow him to return to his father's house.  And Jonathan entered into a bond with David, because he loved him as himself.  Jonathan divested himself of the mantle he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his military dress, and his sword, his bow and his belt.

(2 Samuel 1:17-18)  Then David chanted this elegy for Saul and his son Jonathan, which is recorded in the Book of Jashar to be taught to the Judahites. He sang: ........
(2 Samuel 1:23-27)  Saul and Jonathan, beloved and cherished, separated neither in life nor in death, swifter than eagles, stronger than lions!  Women of Israel, weep over Saul, who clothed you in scarlet and in finery, who decked your attire with ornaments of gold.  "How can the warriors have fallen-- in the thick of the battle, slain upon your heights!  "I grieve for you, Jonathan my brother! most dear have you been to me; More precious have I held love for you than love for women.  "How can the warriors have fallen, the weapons of war have perished!"
by Richard [January 1997]