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Homily 9 January 2005
By Fr. Hathaway FSSP
Mater Dei Latin Mass Community

Holy Family
On Love Seeks Not Her Own

St. Paul writes, “Love seeks not her own” (1 Cor. 13:5) which St. Alphonsus (The Practice of the Love of Jesus Christ) explains, “Those who love Jesus Christ seek to detach themselves from every created thing.”

All men desire to love another.  In the end, men will either give their love to a creature or to his Creator.  To love God properly means to give God our whole heart; to love God and everything else in and for God; to do this we must, St. Alphonsus says, “Banish everything from our heart which is not God.

St. Philip Neri observes that any love we give to earth is love taken from God.  But how does one purge his love for earthly things?  St. Alphonsus says, “by mortification and detachment from creatures.”

There are some people who complain, “I seek God, but it’s no use, I cannot find Him.”  These need to hear St. Teresa of Avila, “detach yourself from creatures then you will find God.”

If you seek God, and do not find Him, it may very well mean that we have some undue attachment to a creature.  St. Alphonsus says some Catholics wish to become saints, but in their own way.  They want to love Jesus Christ but they don’t want to give up their entertainments, worldly dress, and dainty foods.  These do not want to abandon attachments to riches, to worldly honors, to the desire to be thought noble, learned, and more important than others.

If these become poor, they complain; if their self-esteem is wounded, they flare up; if they suffer sickness, they moan.  Thus, these can not find God because they have one already.

St. Alphonsus says many Catholics desire to fly to heaven but their attachments ground them to earth.  Although it be only by a hair, as long as we are attached to the earth by undue love, we can not soar to God.

God wants all our love.  Shall we give God all our love?  Tiberius Caesar wanted the Roman Senate to enroll Jesus Christ among the gods; the senate refused saying, “That god is too proud, he wants to be worshipped alone without companions.”   So we do our Lord a disservice if we give Him a shared love.

God has revealed that He wants us to love Him above all things; and so we must rid our life of anything which hinders loving God more perfectly.

To this end, St. Alphonsus composes a prayer for us: “Lord, I prefer You to everything, to health, to riches, to honors and dignities, to praise, to learning, to consolations, to hopes, to desires, and even to the very graces and gifts that I may receive from You.  In short, I prefer You to every created good that is not Yyou my God.”

We must give our love to God and not to His creatures.  Is this not a poor exchange?

Ven. L. da Ponte felt ashamed to pray, “Lord, I love You above all things, above riches, honors, friends and relatives,” because he felt like he were saying, “Lord, I love You more than mud, smoke, and worms of the earth.”  Are not all creatures in comparison with God these things?

We must seek to be attached to God and not to creatures except in and through God.

The prophet Jeremiah writes, “The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul that seeks Him.”  (Lm 3:25).  St. Alphonsus says this is true of him that seeks God alone.

One day, a prince went hunting in the forest and met a hermit.  The hermit asked him, “What are you doing?”  I am hunting animals,” said the prince; “And I am hunting God,” said the hermit.  So is the main purpose of our life on earth; while others passionately hunt for Walmart bargains, a better investment, a new facial cream, so must we be about hunting our God.

This requires a great effort; for our God tells us we must love Him even to the hating of our relations.

“If any man come to Me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and even his own life also, he can not be My disciple.”  (Lk 14:26)

St. Alphonsus says our Lord calls us to “hate” our relations as many times they hinder our advances in divine love.  “One’s foes will be members of one’s own household.”  (Mt 10:36)

Whenever St. Charles Borromeo returned form visiting his parents he always lamented that he returned less fervent than when he had left.

Besides possessions and relations, we must also be detached from human respect.  If we seek the approval of man to the offending of God we will certainly damage our love of God; even the desire to please man will endanger our love of God.  On the contrary, the saints wished the world knew all their faults so that they would be seen as the wretches they were and be preserved in humility.

Besides possessions, relations, and human respect, we must also be detached from our will.   Recognizing the dangers of self-love, St. Francis Xavier often quipped, “Conquer yourself” i.e., eat your peas and pork chops with an equal relish!

Self-will is the final ruin of souls.  St. Bernard said that if everyone would resist self-will, there would be nobody in hell, “let self-will cease and there will be no hell."

Again, we must detach ourselves from creatures to love God properly.  This is a war of many fronts.  First, we must battle desires for sensual delights, if we mortify the eyes and ears and commend ourselves to God, we will win; second, we must battle desires for riches, if we love poverty, we will win; third, we must battle desires for ambition, if we love humility and the hidden life, we will win; fourth, we must battle what is most dangerous, the desire to rule ourselves, if we resign ourselves in all things to God’s providence, the victory is ours.

Finally, we must love God to please Him as it pleases Him, not as it pleases us… anything else is self-seeking.  This way of love gives all to God; it flees what is offensive to God; it embraces whatever befalls us in this life whether pleasant or unpleasant; it prefers God’s will to all things… thus, this divine love unites us completely with God.

After “Love seeks not her own,” St. Paul writes, “Love is not provoked to anger” which St. Alphonsus explains, “Those who love Jesus Christ never get angry with their neighbor.”  This is our next topic.

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